Anxiety and stress.....

Posted on 9th February, 2015

Anxiety & Stress


Learned behaviour or genetic?


I have often been asked the question if stress is genetic or something we tend to learn over a period of time. For me and my understanding anything that you learn (bad habits) can be unlearned.


I have been studying a mum and daughter in relation to anxiety. Mum was quite a strong person (still is to a degree) but a messy marriage and infidelity within the relationship produced trust issues.


Over a period of time mum became quite distant from others, this was in total contrast to her normal upbeat confident persona who would often be the life and soul of any social gathering. On working with mum for some time we were able to establish two things. One, to look at her new behaviour compared to her old and establish new ways of thinking that were reminiscent to her past, second was to bring to conscious awareness, her change in personality.


Daughter was 11, all her young life she had learned how to be like mum, mum had been going through this relationship issue before her birth. Anxiety and panic attacks were quite normal, so we established new coping skills to encourage positive behaviour, now a changed person.


So let’s understand, stress cannot be contagious but how parents relate to stress can be evident in the children, as in my case review.


We all deal with situations in many different ways, what might seem quite irrelevant to one, might be quite severe in another; hence the levels of stress will also be different.


There are many things you can do, to relieve stress.

1 Remember you make yourself feel this way (yes people can contribute), you’re in total control of your way thinking and feelings. So take control.


2 People tend to look at what they haven’t got instead of what they have got, look at both your external and internal locus of control.


3 Break individual tasks down, don’t let yourself be overloaded with many different and so called complications, stop, take a step back, look at what’s important and follow up with action.


4 Relax, relax, relax, we often go about our day and don’t bother to actually look what’s going on around you. We spend so much time in both the past and future, what time do we have for the here and now? Take time out through the hustle and bustle and try learning some mindfulness or basic relaxation.


5 Exercise, there is no better natural remedy then exercise.  When you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine.


Most importantly be kind to yourself

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